WHY IT IS IMPORTANT TO SOLVE ISSUES QUICKLY IN MARRIAGE

Ephesians 4:26 “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, NKJV.

Be angry [at sin—at immorality, at injustice, at ungodly behavior], yet do not sin; do not let your anger [cause you shame, nor allow it to] last until the sun goes down. AMP.

1. To enjoy sleep. Sleep is a struggle when you are not on good terms with your spouse.

2. To prevent your spouse or yourself from being tempted into an affair. Most affairs start in moments of offense, when you are mad at your spouse or your spouse is mad at you and an outsider gives you a shoulder to lean on OR gives your spouse a shoulder to lean on.

3. To prevent a small issue from growing into bigger issues or complications. Any unresolved matters morph into huge threats that will be harder to solve.

4. To show your spouse that you value what you two have. How much you value your marriage will be seen in how quickly you solve matters.

5. For the sake of peace at home. The home is the one place you should come to find peace. The biggest impediment to peace at home is unresolved issues

6. For the sake of the children. You cannot healthily parent children if you two are at war.

7. To prevent you two from drifting apart. Each day that goes with you two not talking to each well you two drift apart.

8. To train your reconciliation muscle. Reconciliation is a practice you constantly need to teach yourselves if you want to have a strong marriage.

9. To focus on more important things such as investing together, raising children well, touching lives, and fulfilling purpose. You can't do all these in an environment of offense.

10. To prevent misinterpretations and assumptions. When you two are not on good talking terms, you read too much into each other's words and actions, assuming the worst, thus giving birth to new issues.

11. To prevent yourselves from resenting each other. As long as you two don't reconcile, you are giving room to resentment. Soon, you will both start to despise each other and offense will lead to more offense.

12. To protect your intimacy. Your emotional, physical, and sexual intimacy will be destroyed if you two remain mad at each other. Offense brings loneliness, sexual frustration, alcoholism and porn addiction. Many married are looking for escapes because their marriage has issues. Sometimes your spouse will not want to make love to you, not because he/she is having an affair but because of offense.

13. So that you two can fulfill the vision of your marriage. You will not walk in agreement if you don't see eye to eye. Don't destroy everything you two have built and were meant to build.

14. So that you two don't end up divorcing due to irreconcilable differences.